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dawnthiefOk ,so its a week since appointment and I "may" now have processed enough of it for it to make sense plus talked to people about that and the general issues of letting friends know whats going on.
I get the impression that on the first appointment the NHS normally have to drag stuff out of people or are met with someone who has done no research on being transgendered or indeed may just be a total mess. The lady talking to me seemed to be making a lot of mental ticks when she found out that I had read up, had told friends, been out as a girl (or as close as possible) and was overall pretty certain about what I wanted and how to get there. So that is good.
The timelines she laid out were somewhat faster than what my research had led me to believe. 3-6 month RLE, followed by 1yr hormones and then scheduled for surgery. Her question was along the lines of "So when are you looking to start?" There are times all the reading and thinking about things just doesn't help and that was one.
I have no intention of starting the RLE till I have no beard coming through. I don't have an issue living "in a female role" after all its kinda the point but I have no intention of doing so with 5 o clock stubble so zappy lazerness will have to occur. Tentatively the plan is to go for it in January....subject to change at a moments panic or if the beard isn't nuked into submission. Also need to look into various hair regrowth stuff. I haven't receeded too much but a little help wouldn't hurt and boots seem to be doing something with good results at a sensible proie....research time.
Most of the friends are being supportive with the whole thing. There's always an exception but not a lot I can do about that one. I figure either he'll be coaxed out of the trees by his GF or I'll lose a friend which would be a shame but the guy needs to realize that him denying it and hiding from the issue isn't suddenly going to make it stop. I honestly do not care at this point if he wants to throw a hissy fit (although he'll look stupid) but so far all he has done is complain he wasn't told sooner (4th person to find out...before my parents I add) and then pretty much blank the conversation and act like it never occurred....can you feel the unimpressedness?
Anyway next appointment is 24th May and I have to go as the real me. As a result the day has been booked as a holiday from work and it means I have time to get ready/figure out what the hell to wear depending on the weather and generally try to sort more things out before I go back.
List of things to do is currently:
1) Secure a job which is permanent and not temporary and is likely to be in an environment where what I'm doing can be as smooth as possible.
2) Start beard zappyness.
3) Panic :D
Also voices...bloody difficult especially when they tell you to practice by singing and you've always had a strong voice and like to sing rock/metal tunes. I have a tendency to slip hehe. Still a little research into women with slightly lower pitched voices has turned up a few leads and now I just have to try not to reduce my flatmate into hysterics while trying to practice :)
I get the impression that on the first appointment the NHS normally have to drag stuff out of people or are met with someone who has done no research on being transgendered or indeed may just be a total mess. The lady talking to me seemed to be making a lot of mental ticks when she found out that I had read up, had told friends, been out as a girl (or as close as possible) and was overall pretty certain about what I wanted and how to get there. So that is good.
The timelines she laid out were somewhat faster than what my research had led me to believe. 3-6 month RLE, followed by 1yr hormones and then scheduled for surgery. Her question was along the lines of "So when are you looking to start?" There are times all the reading and thinking about things just doesn't help and that was one.
I have no intention of starting the RLE till I have no beard coming through. I don't have an issue living "in a female role" after all its kinda the point but I have no intention of doing so with 5 o clock stubble so zappy lazerness will have to occur. Tentatively the plan is to go for it in January....subject to change at a moments panic or if the beard isn't nuked into submission. Also need to look into various hair regrowth stuff. I haven't receeded too much but a little help wouldn't hurt and boots seem to be doing something with good results at a sensible proie....research time.
Most of the friends are being supportive with the whole thing. There's always an exception but not a lot I can do about that one. I figure either he'll be coaxed out of the trees by his GF or I'll lose a friend which would be a shame but the guy needs to realize that him denying it and hiding from the issue isn't suddenly going to make it stop. I honestly do not care at this point if he wants to throw a hissy fit (although he'll look stupid) but so far all he has done is complain he wasn't told sooner (4th person to find out...before my parents I add) and then pretty much blank the conversation and act like it never occurred....can you feel the unimpressedness?
Anyway next appointment is 24th May and I have to go as the real me. As a result the day has been booked as a holiday from work and it means I have time to get ready/figure out what the hell to wear depending on the weather and generally try to sort more things out before I go back.
List of things to do is currently:
1) Secure a job which is permanent and not temporary and is likely to be in an environment where what I'm doing can be as smooth as possible.
2) Start beard zappyness.
3) Panic :D
Also voices...bloody difficult especially when they tell you to practice by singing and you've always had a strong voice and like to sing rock/metal tunes. I have a tendency to slip hehe. Still a little research into women with slightly lower pitched voices has turned up a few leads and now I just have to try not to reduce my flatmate into hysterics while trying to practice :)
